Dear David,

Her husband plays the I’m-still-your-husband card because, until the divorce is final, he is still her husband. I know this is difficult for you emotionally to accept, but please listen. Getting involved with a married woman to begin with was a mistake. That’s adultery, the same offense her husband committed. Adultery is a divorceable offense, but she and her husband both have now committed the same sin and it seems to me God has been convicting her. If her conscience says God’s command for us to forgive would have her reconcile to him that is what she must do, regardless of his past offenses.