Patricia writes: > After praying that a soul tie be severed, when does the freedom from > that soul tie begin?  When does the shame stop? Dear Patricia, Every journey to healing is different, Patricia. It’s much like when we first get saved. Some pray to receive Jesus and literally feel the weight of their sins lifted off them and never feel a serious temptation to go back to the old strongholds. Others struggle for years before getting the victory. Either way, when we repent, God forgives instantly. Sometimes, though we still have to struggle with the consequences, such as a soul tie–which is simplyRead More →

There’s a guy in church who is seven years older than me; he is 24  and I am 17. I often find myself thinking of a future with this man; does the age difference really matter in the eyes of God? Thanks, Thinking of a Future Dear Future, It’s more your age than the age difference. When you were 10 and he was 17, there would have been something seriously wrong with him. But when you’re, say, 21 and 28, it won’t matter much, and when you’re 31 and 38, it’ll be nothing. As for presently, if he’s interested and someone worth getting involved with, he’llRead More →

I am a college student and in a very serious relationship with a strong Christian guy. We have been courting for over two years and plan to get engaged within the month. Recently, one of my best guy friends admitted that he liked me. He went as far as to say that he hoped my boyfriend and I had broken up so he could pursue a relationship (he implied marriage) with me. I told him that I was dedicated to my boyfriend and that I was pretty sure he was the one God had for me. My friend understood (hopefully) and said he hoped myRead More →

What does the Bible say about interracial relationships?   The key verse on it is Colassians 3:11 “there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcision and uncircumcision, foreigner, Scythian, slave or freeman, but Christ is all things in all.” The bible’s only prohibition on who you can marry (besides stuff like someone who’s already married/unlawfully divorced) is 2Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship does righteousness have with lawlessness? And what partnership does light have with darkness? “ So let me state it plainly: in Christianity, it doesn’t matter what the color of the guy’s skin is; what matters isRead More →

For Christian brothers and sisters in extended, nonsexual dating relationships who are perplexed by a loss of interest in kissing, i.e. have lost the “in love” feeling, and are wondering what’s caused it.  Dear Perplexed, There  are several different things it could be. Stress, medication, depression, etc can inhibit sexual desires (here expressed via kissing.) If you’ve been having relationship difficulties, that can do it (the feelings usually come back if you work out the problem here.)  Seeing a doctor might be necessary to eliminate these. This could also mean you’ve been hit with something nearly all marriages experience where, emotionally, the honeymoon is overRead More →