“Whoever pursues righteousness and kindness will find life, righteousness, and honor.” (Proverbs 21:21) So pursuing righteousness gets me righteousness and life. Pursuing kindness gets me honor? Interesting. The Church today has a hard time pursuing both righteousness and kindness. The devil fights us because either one  isn’t enough. We need both to find life righteousness, and honor. So all he has to do is keep us from being one or the other–and we can be more easily tricked into thinking we’re following Jesus properly in either half way state. The devil also likes to get us focused on the opposite problem than the one weRead More →

cecil says: on October 17th, 2007 at 8:28 am –my wife does not want any touching or kissing, and . . . she has a whole new set of slang she talks, she goes no where with the kids and i ,not even ballgames. she never wants to talk to me and is always angry. at home she dresses like a wreck but come work time she looks like miss america. can you tell me could she be cheating with someone at her work? Dear Cecil, Most likely, she is cheating on you–but with her work itself rather than someone at her work. What IRead More →

Dear Andrea, I read this and wondered what you would tell these people to do. Adam Cyber cheats married… to each other A married couple are divorcing after they chatted each other up on the Internet using fake names. Full Story: click here First, I would break the reality that an affair with your wife is not grounds to divorce her. They both lied, yes. It could even be argued they both committed adultery in their hearts. But they shouldn’t be getting divorced. They should be getting a marriage counselor and dishing out forgiveness. Especially when you’re both equally guilty. This is a marriage thatRead More →

In response to Standing in the Gap for Cheating Hearts, a commenter asks: Praise God, and thank you. I wanted you to please, if you can spare some time, tell me tell me, inform me, or educate me on how to be forgiving on issues like this? I expect to be forgiven if I find myself in such a situation (God Forbid though), but I find it almost impossible or impossible to forgive if someone did it to me. I am talking of adultery, or sexually been unfaithful. I am a guy, and I need some help and advice. I don’t really understand why IRead More →

For any brother or sister burdened with suspicion of unfaithfulness without proof positive and wondering if their spouse truly deserves their distrust.

The first question to ask is: has anyone, particularly a male you respected/ looked up to, ever violated your trust in the past?