The Lawful Affair: With Your Wife

Dear Andrea,

I read this and wondered what you would tell these people to do.


Cyber cheats married… to each other
A married couple are divorcing after they chatted each other up on the Internet using fake names.

Full Story:
click here

First, I would break the reality that an affair with your wife is not grounds to divorce her. They both lied, yes. It could even be argued they both committed adultery in their hearts. But they shouldn’t be getting divorced. They should be getting a marriage counselor and dishing out forgiveness. Especially when you’re both equally guilty.

This is a marriage that could easily be saved; they said it themselves, they’re perfect for each other. In fact, before they realized they were in fact already married but thought they were having an affair, they were declaring themselves soul mates. They’ve just become wrapped up in themselves while being unappreciative of and insensitive towards their spouse.

But alas, both are too wrapped up in themselves and their hurts to see how they’ve hurt their spouse. Even realizing they were the spouse being dished on won’t wake them up. But I hope it wakes up those interested in a divorcee who are listening with a sympathetic ear as they dish on their spouse. In a no fault divorce, both parties are usually guilty. And you never hear about all the things they did.

The greatest tragedy of this is they actually fell in love with each other all over again, and actually talked about the problems in their marriage, and were too busy being disgusted by each other’s mutual dishonesty to learn a dang thing. They could possibly even skip the trip to marriage counselor and save the marriage simply by talking to each other the same way they did when they didn’t realize it was each other. Kindness, forgiveness, and continuing their love affair is exactly what they need to not only make it, but to thrive.

In Christ’s Reconciliation,

Andrea Graham

Trackposted to Outside the Beltway, Perri Nelson’s Website, The Virtuous Republic, Rosemary’s Thoughts, The Random Yak, DeMediacratic Nation, Right Truth, Big Dog’s Weblog, Nuke’s News & Views, Shadowscope, Cao’s Blog, Leaning Straight Up, The Amboy Times, Conservative Cat, Pursuing Holiness, Diary of the Mad Pigeon, third world county, Right Celebrity, Faultline USA, Wake Up America, The Crazy Rants of Samantha Burns, The World According to Carl, Pirate’s Cove, The Pink Flamingo, Gulf Coast Hurricane Tracker, Republican National Convention Blog, Right Voices, and The Yankee Sailor, thanks to Linkfest Haven Deluxe.


  1. That is so sad, isn’t it? I had not seen this. Good golly Miss Molly.

  2. Author

    Hey, Chris, thanks for stopping in! Yeah, real sad. Sometimes I don’t know whether I want to shake folks by the shoulders or ring their neck; in a loving Christ-like way of course 😉

  3. my wife does not want any touching are kissing,and . . . she has a whole new set of slang she talks, she goes no where with the kids and i ,not even ballgames. she never wants to talk to me and is always angry. at home she dressess like at wreck but come work time she looks like miss america. can you tell me could she be cheating with someone at her work?

  4. Author

    Hi, Cecil:

    I deleted a personal item your wife probably would not appreciate being shared in public. I don’t think the issue is another man, but I’ll answer this in depth in a regular column. Thanks for dropping in!

Comments are closed.