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Dear Hopeful, First, I commend your desire to make your marriage work, though unfaithfulness is a legitimate, biblically sound reason to divorce, particularly if the guilty partner is unrepentant. If your husband had confessed adultery, repented, and asked forgiveness, in such a case I would say the law of forgiveness would have you to stay, but otherwise you are not bound to your husband in the case of adultery. Your husband’s disinterest is NOT your fault. That is what pornography does. Reality simply cannot compete with the fantasy pornography tantalizes the viewer with. Kept up long enough, and the man will inevitably seek to actRead More →

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Dear Andrea, I’m writing to seek words of advice to give to my son who said to me today that he is thinking of separating from his wife. He is a young minister and I know this decision has not come lightly. He has been working very hard at keeping his marriage together, however, his wife, does not seem to want to be married. They recently returned to the U.S. and have no church home or minister he can seek advice from. He always seeks advice from me and his dad. I tried to talk to her and share some of my wisdom which IRead More →

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marriage counselors deal with your issue all the time and most marriages CAN survive. Despite what that little voice in your ear is whispering, your marriage is more likely to survive if you tell the counselor–and, when you’re ready, your husband–the truth. Certainly, sweeping the problem under the rug is much easier than facing the truth, but, practically, that carries the same risk, if not greater, of divorce than if you confess and ask forgiveness.

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I am very confused about my marriage sees my husband raped me when we were dating and I became pregnant. My parents literally forced me to marry him, I wasn’t brave enough to tell my parents what had happened and now after 4 yrs of marriage we constantly fight about everything. I hold a very strong resentment towards him. I feel like I hate him sometimes. Signed, Confused in CA I would pray and talk with my pastor or another trusted elder in my local church body. It does sound like you shouldn’t have married him, and I suspect such situations are why Catholics permitRead More →

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Andrea,* My husband has never taken responsibility for his own actions. Somehow he figures out a way to blame me for everything… During quiet times I try and show him how his actions are affecting his kids, he flew into a rage… He told me that its my fault he does this stuff. Andrea, How do you deal with this kind of sickness? I pray for him. He blames God for our finances, his work, our relationship. Is there help for a person like this or should I give up… Andrea, I am real tired.PS we did the whole counseling thing, when the doctor wouldRead More →